Politics.
I grew up with the perception of politics as a gentleman's game, though 'gentleman' is hardly a word to describe the political scene in Malaysia. Meaning that a woman is less likely to be accepted in such a world.
Kind of sad, even though we are working very hard to close the gender gap and (almost) succeeding at it. But how many women are actually involved in politics in Malaysia? And what is our perception of them?
I still have a memory of myself sitting down in my Business Law tutorial class when the lecturer suddenly asked everyone if they have aspirations to run as Prime Minister one day. My answer is no. It's too overwhelming thinking about how the future of a country depends on us.
I mulled on the idea some time after about what it would mean for someone like me to be in politics. I just love the image of an empowered, independent and highly-respected woman. Most of such women seem to have a certain aura about them.
But...if I were to ever step foot into politics, I think if anyone wanted to dish out the dirt on me, there would be plenty. I kind of imagine that anyone who's in politics (and especially a woman!!) needs to really make their image as impeccable as possible. Because when someone wants to find fault with you, they will stop at nothing.
I am no extraordinary speaker. My best means of communication are through writing. I can't imagine myself having a political debate, as the art of arguing is not an asset on my list of abilities. But if anything, I have a vision for my country, a passion to make things right, and that is about as good as it gets. Plus, I do have lots of experience in running causes and campaigns that I believe in. If that's not what being a leader is about, than what is?
I think it is much much harder to be in politics if you are a woman. I mean, if I ever become a public figure, some of the things they might point out is that
1. I am not religious. I don't cover myself from head to toe, and that about makes me equal to a heathen in the eyes of some. Regardless of my true moral standing.
2. I am a single mother, and a survivor of domestic violence. But some people do view me as being unfaithful, a disgrace and un-Islamic. Which could be easily twisted by some to say that I am a failure at home affairs, so why should people look up to me?
Another thing about being a woman in politics, is the portrayal of your character by media, that tends to get a little vindictive and petty. Only because you're a woman do they take special note of the way you dress (no cleavage please!), or the wrinkles on your face, or the fact that you may have spoken a little too loudly during an interview. Forget that you have intelligent things to say, it is all overshadowed by your public appearance.
Ask Hillary Clinton, she was a victim of such pettiness. It happens everywhere, and not just Malaysia. People are still cruel to women, no matter what we say about gender equality.
And God forbid should you ever find a partner while you are a public figure, because then there would be a media frenzy while people dissect every little detail of your personal life. Let's not forget what happened to Elizabeth Wong, Bukit Lanjan assemblywoman.
You would never hear such nonsense if the politician was a man. In fact we just smile snidely, and close one eye when it is a male politician who has 2 wives, and a girlfriend on the side. We don't care that he came to a meeting with his tie askew. Who cares?
No, it is not an equal playing field when it comes to politics.
I have been somewhat a little interested in politics, and even more so this year as I find out more and more through the connections I have built. I want to be involved in creating change. I can't go into politics myself as per the reasons named above... but I can help to find potential women leaders. Can't I?
So I was pretty excited when I was informed that there is a National Training of Trainers conducted by All Womens Action Society (AWAM) and Women's Learning Partnership (WLP) on "Leadership and Women's Political Participation" in Kuala Lumpur. Apart from it being a break from my usual routine, the topic is something I am quite interested in due to recent events.
The NTOT was participated by 23 women, all from different organisations throughout Malaysia. Majoree and I were the participants were the only ones from Borneo. I was very impressed with the very participative and vocal nature of the participants.
The trainers we had for the session was pretty impressive too, hailing all the way from Nigeria and Egypt with nuggets of information to share with all of us about the political landscape in their own countries.
To me, I felt totally comfortable with all of them, it was like we were all of the same kind - passionate about issues that were happening in the country. Everyone was an activist, or someone who is actively pursuing a cause. I fit right in from the first day.
The ice-breaker involved us drawing one thing that we think represents us, or someone we would like to be. It could be an animal, anything organic, just anything. I wasn't sure what I wanted to draw, but in the end I drew a diamond (hmmm... thinking later that maybe it was due to me being in JCI Intan).
Suddenly I remember my message as souvenir magazine editor for JCI Intan last year, when I wrote 'just like our namesake, we may be small but we are precious and shine in the dimmest of lights' or in that context. Corny, I know
But this time my reason for choosing a diamond to represent myself because of the amount of time it takes for a diamond to form. And a diamond needs to be cut and polished to become the high-value item it is. Which rings true to me (pardon the pun).
The second thing we did was to draw with our less dominant hand, in my case - the left hand, of the woman who inspired us and write a word to describe how she inspired us. I couldn't pin-point just one person, so in the end I chickened out and chose my mum for her resilience.
The truth is, we are inspired by so many people in our lives. Anyone can inspire, anyone can be a leader. And we too can be a leader, whether we realise it or not.
All through the four days, we laughed, we shared, we gave our best input. I think it was some of the most enjoyable trainings I ever had, and some of the most creative too. Everyone was given a chance to be a part of a host team - to be the time-keeper, take care of group dynamics, documentation etc. I also took the chance to try and co-facilitate a session, though I think Wei San was great and could carry it all by herself. I loved how everyone was so enthusiastic and encouraging throughout.
It was an exhausting 4 days, especially since I did go to Bersih meetings and #OccupyDataran after the trainings just to get a feel of everything that is happening in KL. All the stuff that I have previously only seen online.
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I grew up with the perception of politics as a gentleman's game, though 'gentleman' is hardly a word to describe the political scene in Malaysia. Meaning that a woman is less likely to be accepted in such a world.
Kind of sad, even though we are working very hard to close the gender gap and (almost) succeeding at it. But how many women are actually involved in politics in Malaysia? And what is our perception of them?
I still have a memory of myself sitting down in my Business Law tutorial class when the lecturer suddenly asked everyone if they have aspirations to run as Prime Minister one day. My answer is no. It's too overwhelming thinking about how the future of a country depends on us.
I mulled on the idea some time after about what it would mean for someone like me to be in politics. I just love the image of an empowered, independent and highly-respected woman. Most of such women seem to have a certain aura about them.
But...if I were to ever step foot into politics, I think if anyone wanted to dish out the dirt on me, there would be plenty. I kind of imagine that anyone who's in politics (and especially a woman!!) needs to really make their image as impeccable as possible. Because when someone wants to find fault with you, they will stop at nothing.
I am no extraordinary speaker. My best means of communication are through writing. I can't imagine myself having a political debate, as the art of arguing is not an asset on my list of abilities. But if anything, I have a vision for my country, a passion to make things right, and that is about as good as it gets. Plus, I do have lots of experience in running causes and campaigns that I believe in. If that's not what being a leader is about, than what is?
I think it is much much harder to be in politics if you are a woman. I mean, if I ever become a public figure, some of the things they might point out is that
1. I am not religious. I don't cover myself from head to toe, and that about makes me equal to a heathen in the eyes of some. Regardless of my true moral standing.
2. I am a single mother, and a survivor of domestic violence. But some people do view me as being unfaithful, a disgrace and un-Islamic. Which could be easily twisted by some to say that I am a failure at home affairs, so why should people look up to me?
Another thing about being a woman in politics, is the portrayal of your character by media, that tends to get a little vindictive and petty. Only because you're a woman do they take special note of the way you dress (no cleavage please!), or the wrinkles on your face, or the fact that you may have spoken a little too loudly during an interview. Forget that you have intelligent things to say, it is all overshadowed by your public appearance.
Ask Hillary Clinton, she was a victim of such pettiness. It happens everywhere, and not just Malaysia. People are still cruel to women, no matter what we say about gender equality.
And God forbid should you ever find a partner while you are a public figure, because then there would be a media frenzy while people dissect every little detail of your personal life. Let's not forget what happened to Elizabeth Wong, Bukit Lanjan assemblywoman.
You would never hear such nonsense if the politician was a man. In fact we just smile snidely, and close one eye when it is a male politician who has 2 wives, and a girlfriend on the side. We don't care that he came to a meeting with his tie askew. Who cares?
No, it is not an equal playing field when it comes to politics.
I have been somewhat a little interested in politics, and even more so this year as I find out more and more through the connections I have built. I want to be involved in creating change. I can't go into politics myself as per the reasons named above... but I can help to find potential women leaders. Can't I?
So I was pretty excited when I was informed that there is a National Training of Trainers conducted by All Womens Action Society (AWAM) and Women's Learning Partnership (WLP) on "Leadership and Women's Political Participation" in Kuala Lumpur. Apart from it being a break from my usual routine, the topic is something I am quite interested in due to recent events.
The NTOT was participated by 23 women, all from different organisations throughout Malaysia. Majoree and I were the participants were the only ones from Borneo. I was very impressed with the very participative and vocal nature of the participants.
The trainers we had for the session was pretty impressive too, hailing all the way from Nigeria and Egypt with nuggets of information to share with all of us about the political landscape in their own countries.
To me, I felt totally comfortable with all of them, it was like we were all of the same kind - passionate about issues that were happening in the country. Everyone was an activist, or someone who is actively pursuing a cause. I fit right in from the first day.The ice-breaker involved us drawing one thing that we think represents us, or someone we would like to be. It could be an animal, anything organic, just anything. I wasn't sure what I wanted to draw, but in the end I drew a diamond (hmmm... thinking later that maybe it was due to me being in JCI Intan).
Suddenly I remember my message as souvenir magazine editor for JCI Intan last year, when I wrote 'just like our namesake, we may be small but we are precious and shine in the dimmest of lights' or in that context. Corny, I know
But this time my reason for choosing a diamond to represent myself because of the amount of time it takes for a diamond to form. And a diamond needs to be cut and polished to become the high-value item it is. Which rings true to me (pardon the pun).
The second thing we did was to draw with our less dominant hand, in my case - the left hand, of the woman who inspired us and write a word to describe how she inspired us. I couldn't pin-point just one person, so in the end I chickened out and chose my mum for her resilience.
The truth is, we are inspired by so many people in our lives. Anyone can inspire, anyone can be a leader. And we too can be a leader, whether we realise it or not.
All through the four days, we laughed, we shared, we gave our best input. I think it was some of the most enjoyable trainings I ever had, and some of the most creative too. Everyone was given a chance to be a part of a host team - to be the time-keeper, take care of group dynamics, documentation etc. I also took the chance to try and co-facilitate a session, though I think Wei San was great and could carry it all by herself. I loved how everyone was so enthusiastic and encouraging throughout.
It was an exhausting 4 days, especially since I did go to Bersih meetings and #OccupyDataran after the trainings just to get a feel of everything that is happening in KL. All the stuff that I have previously only seen online.
The most important messages I have learnt in those 4 days is that yes, women can be leaders and be involved in politics. We may be a homekeeper, or a result from a failed relationship, but we can capitalise on the good points.
We learnt about campaigning and advocacy. We learnt about communicating to our best potential. It was all the great things to tie in to being a good leader in society.
I was especially tearful after reading about Asma Khader (Jordanian human right's activist and lawyer), whose 5 year old daughter complained that she never gets to spend much time with the mother due to her demanding work schedule. But after seeing the dismal state of the prisons while tagging along with her mother, her daughter too grew up and was inspired to become a human rights lawyer herself. Very inspiring.
Of course, I would never vote for a woman simply because of her gender. That to me is not what gender equality is about. I would vote for her because of her capability and because I believed in her leadership. There is no point in voting for someone who is only interested in her own political agenda. And it works for both, man or woman.
And now I am back home again, it is time to plan. Plan to conduct such trainings and groom future women leaders. Can't wait!
Already I can feel I am at the forefront of change.























